Have you ever noticed an individual who was self confident, not necessarily to the point of arrogance, but just that it came naturally for them? Some individuals have no real issues with self-confidence. Do you often wonder why that is? How is it that some people just walk through life without ever doubting themselves or their intuition while others struggle with this issue?
Self-confidence, yes, is something that people are born with, but thankfully self-confidence is an achievable and learnable goal. Of course, even the most self-confident person has issues with insecurity and self-doubt. No one gets away unscathed with that. However, these individuals may be more resilient when things don’t go according to plan and they may be able to rebound a lot quicker than those of us who have little or no self-confidence whatsoever.
Thankfully, there are ways around having little or no self-confidence. While it might take some practice, it is certainly something you can learn.
We all have our strengths, but we all also tend to focus on our own weaknesses. If you find yourself in this category, then perhaps it is time to put pen to paper. Start making a list of your good qualities and next to that start making a list of your achievements.
When you list your good qualities try to be very specific and show yourself your own uniqueness. For example, don’t just write that you are organized. Be specific and write down that you have wonderful time management skills therefore allowing you to be organized.
Every time you feel discouraged, take a look at your good qualities and also look at your accomplishments. It is so easy to beat ourselves up and when we see it in writing it makes it easier to remember we have already accomplished so much.
Practice being self-confident by taking on what that might feel like. Decide that you are intentionally going to walk into a room and be self-confident. Once you have taken that on, walk in smiling and making brief eye contact and looking up instead of down.
Try this on even if it is just briefly. Walk into an event and take on being confident. Play a character. Practice makes perfect. Once you have succeeded this one time, you will find it gets easier and easier to take on self confidence and to have it become natural.
When you look good, you feel good. Try to keep up with yourself a bit more when taking on self-confidence. A new haircut, a little bit of weight loss, a new outfit are all ways to change the way you look and feel. It is a trickle down effect.
However, when it comes to looking good, don’t take on looking like everyone else as far as your education, career, choice of hair cut, and clothing style. Get in touch with the real you and before you know it, you will shine through with real, authentic confidence every time.